I invite you to set your intention to courage.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”
-Anais Nin
About Me
My approach to trauma therapy is shaped by both professional training and personal insight into the impact of early relational experiences. I understand how patterns formed in childhood can carry into adulthood—affecting identity, boundaries, and relationships.
My own experience in therapy, grounded in Pia Mellody’s model, enhanced further by Peter Levine, Richard Schwartz, Dr. Gottman, Ed Schnarch and others. These reinforced the importance of evidence-based treatment and the power of deep, sustained therapeutic work.
I now bring that perspective into my practice, helping clients move from survival patterns into clarity, stability, and a stronger sense of self.
Mission Statement
My mission is to help those impacted by trauma to re-establish a sense of stability by providing them with the latest evidenced-based tools as they reclaim and rebuild thriving lives. I provide individual and couples psychotherapy, as well as coaching to adults. I specialize in developmental trauma, partner betrayal trauma, couple’s reintegration therapy (post sex addiction/problematic sexual behaviors or relationship ruptures), and sexual therapy for individuals and couples.
I was very blessed to be referred to Delta by my then-husband’s therapist. At our first meeting, I was completely overwhelmed—an emotional wreck, really—and I couldn’t believe how kind she was right from the start. She was so well-spoken, intuitive, and genuine that I immediately felt comfortable and at ease. On my drive home, I remember thinking, she really gets it.
At that time, I was carrying so much: moving to a new state, grieving the loss of my mother, and navigating the deep pain of betrayal. I remember thinking that if Delta could put up with me, she might be the one person who could help me find a path toward the light at the end of this tunnel.
From the very beginning, Delta was sincere and authentic. Her kindness never felt like pity or judgment. Her calm presence and understanding eyes gave me something I hadn’t felt in a long time—trust. That alone was huge for me. Comfort came through her poise and honesty. She doesn’t sugarcoat things or
tell me only what I want to hear; she tells me what I need to hear. And somehow, that has helped me build a more positive outlook on life. Delta doesn’t just listen—she teaches. She helps me understand why I’ve made certain choices, showing me, how past experiences and traumas can shape patterns and behaviors. She reminds me that those patterns may protect us for a while, but they can’t sustain us long-term. Through her guidance, I’ve learned
that understanding the “why” behind my actions is the first step toward real healing. She has truly helped me understand life better.
Her faith in God is strong, loyal, and unwavering—just like she is. No matter how wonderful or painful life becomes, I have full confidence that Delta will help me
find my way, as she has so many times before. And even when I don’t follow her advice right away, I always end up coming back to say, “You were right.” And then there’s Delta’s sense of humor—thank God for it! It’s one of the best remedies she offers. Her patience is another of her many gifts. I don’t just mean
patience with my time-management challenges, but with the way my mind works. My ADHD can be a force of its own, yet she never tries to change who I am. She meets me exactly where I am, following me from topic to topic without losing track—sometimes even reminding me of things I said years ago. That kind of
attention and care is rare, and I’m so grateful for it.
Delta has been a life-changing presence for me. Her wisdom, faith, humor, and compassion have helped me grow in ways I never imagined. I am endlessly thankful for her guidance and for the light she continues to bring into my life.”
Melissa
“I’ve had lifelong struggles with acceptance—of myself, of my past, and of certain choices I’ve made. Add in perfectionist expectations, and it’s no surprise I felt unable to move forward. Over time, I’ve learned to give myself a break, accept my humanity, and
forgive my inability to be perfect. I’m learning to allow myself to feel my feelings—acknowledging them, experiencing them, and then letting them move on.
When I decided to seek out a therapist specializing in relationship trauma, I’m very grateful I found Delta. She has made a significant impact on my life. She’s helped me take responsibility for my decisions, accept my past, and move forward with a
confidence I didn’t previously have. After nine months of working together, I’ve realized that by refusing to accept my past, I was keeping myself stuck in the same rut I’d lived in for decades. I no longer hold myself to unrealistic expectations. I understand now that I cannot expect anything from others that I am not able or willing to offer myself. And I’ve learned that avoiding my feelings only guarantees they will linger—allowing myself to feel and process them is the only way to release them.
Therapy with Delta often brings an emotional, physical, and spiritual release that I had never experienced before. At the same time, it challenges me in necessary ways: owning my actions, feeling my feelings, and taking responsibility for myself. These
challenges have become some of the most important parts of my healing.
Before coming to see Delta, I had been stuck for years—decades, really—avoiding my trauma. I didn’t want to accept my past. I stayed frozen, afraid to deal with my emotions and unwilling to look at parts of myself I didn’t want to see. Delta guided me gently but persistently toward realizations I desperately needed. She helped me reach a place where I could accept my past, understand why I did what I did, and even why I avoided what I avoided. She helped me develop compassion for myself and ultimately forgive
myself. And with that forgiveness, I felt a release I had never experienced.
By helping me accept the past as it truly was, she opened my eyes to the future—my future. She did this with kindness, patience, and unwavering support, never allowing me to beat myself up along the way. In many ways, she gave me my life back.
When I first came to her, I said, “I have to do this work—it’s not optional.” What I didn’t yet understand was that the real question was whether I was willing to take care of myself. It turns out, it’s never too late: never too late to live my life, never too late to
work toward becoming a better and healthier version of myself.
Delta helped me get out of my own way. My thinking had been the real problem. I wanted reality to be different. But reality was what it was—my past was my past; my experiences were my experiences. Delta helped me see that wanting something to be different wouldn’t make it change. What needed to change was how I saw it, how I interpreted it, and what attitude I brought to it.
She didn’t change my past. She helped me reframe my perception of it so that my future could change.
Delta, thank you. I am deeply grateful—not only for how you’ve helped me change my life, but also for the way your work helps so many people move toward healthier, fuller lives.”
Steve
“I didn’t start therapy with a crisis. My life looked fine from the outside. I remember Delta asking me during our first session, “What’s the crisis?” and I genuinely didn’t have one. I simply wondered if life could feel better. I had no idea how much better it could be. Before working with Delta, I didn’t realize how disconnected I was from myself. I had low self-esteem, I allowed people to take advantage of me, and I had no concept of
boundaries or ownership of my own life. I felt used and unappreciated, and I could not understand why I gave so much and still felt empty. I didn’t know it then, but I did not love myself.
Through our work together, something shifted. There was not one magic phrase or a single breakthrough moment. It was the consistent work. She helped me see the patterns I could not see on my own. We went to the root instead of managing the
consequences of trauma. I learned emotional adulthood, boundaries, and how to reparent myself. I learned to listen to the quiet inner voice I had ignored my entire life.
When it finally got loud enough to hear, it sounded like love and safety. The biggest change is that I finally know how to belong to myself. I used to apologize, over function, and people please. Now, I trust myself. I can feel the echo of the old version of me in certain moments, and my adult self can hold her with
love instead of abandoning her. My inner voice is kinder and wiser. I ask myself what I need and what I want. For most of my life, those questions felt impossible to answer.
Today, they are the foundation of how I move through the world.
This work softened me without making me small. Delta never positioned herself as someone I needed to depend on. She taught me how to depend on myself. She speaks with courage, and she empowers you to meet yourself with the same courage.
Therapy with Delta changed my marriage too. My husband and I did this work side by side. We speak the same emotional language, and we are interdependent rather than codependent.
If I could speak to the version of myself who started this journey, I would tell her: You do not have to wonder anymore. You do not have to convince anyone of your value. You can stop abandoning yourself just to be chosen.
For the first time in my life, I feel like an adult. For the first time, I know what it feels like to belong to myself.”
Camille
“Delta Shuman is an excellent therapist and I enjoy working with her. Ms. Shuman is
non-judgmental, caring and has a creative approach. Her patients speak highly of her
and appreciate the special attention she gives each of them.”
Barbara A. Miears, M.D., Psychiatry
Coaching is just like high school football. Delta helps the willing (me) know how to play the game better, and more efficiently.
What I appreciate about coaching is that its very personal. It has to be that way in order to get anywhere with it. My thinking changed about “who” I am and what I really can achieve in this life.
Delta’s ability to listen is nothing short of amazing. She would then reframe it back in a healthier way, that creates more opportunities that I didn’t know existed.
My greatest overall take-away, is the insights I have come to about myself and how I can actually change my way of thinking about myself to be positive, strong and effective. This lead to my ultimate goal I sought counseling for, to find a purposeful work to do in my last career transition, I call retirement. I achieved so
much more than just that goal in coaching. Thank you Delta!
After each session, I feel better than the time before. It’s the highlight of my day.”
Ray
In seeking a coach, my goal was to change how I was thinking, it used to be limiting and self-punitive. I feel much freer to just explore options, possibly fall short of my expectations or keep asking new questions. It feels like the turns in the road are open and not dead ended or trapped.I found coaching different from counseling, because in coaching, it is ok for me to not know the answers and be vulnerable, without processing everything on a therapeutic level. I think Delta is professional and has amazing boundaries, offers creative andcorporate knowledge in a compassionate and skillful manner. I refer her often to my friends and colleagues.I am gaining a lot from coaching. It has helped me to keep thinking further down the road but also staying grounded in my daily accomplishments and goals. I love it and feel like I have someone who can remind me about my strengths, purpose and creative resources.”
Margaret
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